by AIW Member Ruth Schimel, PhD

What a great conference we had this year!  After attending over six or so, I think this one was the best yet.

One surprise I had, regardless of the level of experience and expertise any of us have: how few people seemed to reach out to one another.  Example: If I asked someone what they were working on, the person did not ask me anything about my writing.  That could have led to all kinds of possible cross-fertilization for connections, content or just commiseration.

Another surprise: How few people were ready to summarize their interests or projects in a quick and juicy way.  Example: The short story writer at the agent’s breakfast table who explained the plot from beginning to end instead of synthesizing it when another seven people also needed air time.   Example: When asked about her project, a woman said, “Oh, I’m new; I’m not writing.”  However, when encouraged, she offered she is writing children’s stories.

Finally, what’s the lack of business cards about?  What keeps someone from saying something about their focus on a card, besides not yet having the confidence and commitment?  Perhaps act “as if” for while. Maybe call yourself a writer, consultant, or editor.  Or note content interests.  If the cost of cards, anticipation of changes or multiple incarnations hold you back, investigate the inexpensive or even free options at www.vistaprint.com.

Yes, not everyone is a extravert, and thank goodness.  Could you imagine the noisy chemistry or limited listening that would lead to?  If you consider yourself an introvert, though, and have discomfort in meeting new people, maybe this link on networking for introverts will help.  Or send me an e-mail and I’ll share a guide I’ve written about making good conversation.

I look forward to connecting with you!

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Ruth Schimel, PhD, is a Career & Life Management Consultant and long-time AIW member who founded The Schimel Lode. The Schimel Lode is a component fund of the Community Foundation for the National Capital Region. As of 2009, the fund offers an annual, $10,000-20,000 seed grant to encourage innovation and collaboration for the public good in the Washington, DC, area.